I’m not sure I could ever articulate the events of the past two weeks; how they have shaken me at the very core and tested my resilience. Yet, within so many moments of sadness there was also an abundance of love, serenity and gratitude. My personal chef, fisherman, singer, musician, movie line reciter, enthusiast of so many things. My first best friend. My Dad. Manu had the difficult job of telling me the news that we’d have to get the next flight home. That my dad was gone.

When you live far away, you always think about what you would do or how you would react if something terrible happened at home. I didn’t realize it until it happened but the only thing you can do is just get it done. You get on the plane, you confront your emotions, you stop the questioning of how things might have been if you had only been there. It’s out of character for me, since I’m usually emotionally weak, but I felt a surge of strength inside me these past two weeks that I never knew existed. Maybe it was Bob giving me a hand through it all, or maybe it was the outpouring of love from my incredible friends and family in both of my homes. Whatever it was, I’m eternally grateful. Words alone aren’t enough to tell you how much I appreciate all of your support. 

Wherever Bob is now, I know he’s where he’s meant to be. And he’s singing and cooking and having a blast, just like he always did.
Robert Angelo Bognanno


  1. Sending you the most love, darling. Big hugs xoxo

  2. So sorry to hear of your loss.

  3. Amanda Freerksen12/18/2013

    Hi, Marissa. I am so terribly sorry to learn of your loss. It turns my stomach upside down when I hear of daughters losing their fathers. I think from now on all of a sudden so many things will remind you of him! Sometimes it will make you sad, and sometimes it will make you laugh aloud! Be kind to yourself. Grief is a mystery. HUGS!

  4. K davies12/18/2013

    I am so very sorry about your Dad's death at such a young age. May he rest in eternal peace, and may your memories of your live for each other help you to come to terms with his loss.

  5. My thoughts are with you at this difficult time. I also live across the ocean from my family, so this hits close to home. I will definitely be hugging them all tighter this Christmas as I feel the years passing. I am so sorry to hear that you have lost your father so soon, but I am sure you have a multitude of wonderful memories of him as well. Wishing you strength and peace. -CCJ

  6. Georgie12/18/2013

    Marissa, I'm so sorry to hear of your Dad's passing. From the looks of that big ol'smile of his I can tell there were a lot of good memories for you and your family! May you find that those memories will give you what you need to get by these next few days, and months. Prayers and thoughts go out to you during this difficult time.

  7. Tutti Dolci12/18/2013

    Marissa, I'm so sorry for your loss. Praying for you to experience peace this season despite hard and painful circumstances.

  8. Oh, Marissa, I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending lots of love to you and your family. <3

  9. LR @ Magnificent or Egregious12/22/2013

    Very sorry for your loss. Take care.

  10. jrodfresh12/23/2013

    Sorry for your loss stay strong

  11. I am so, so terribly sorry for your loss Marissa, so very sorry. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers and that I'm sending you all the love and laughter and hope I can from The LPV.
    Take your time to grieve, the sadness comes in waves, don't rush yourself. Much love to you my friend xoxo

  12. Kristen1/02/2014

    I'm so sorry for your loss. No words other than that really. Love, Kristen

  13. I am so sorry for your loss. My deepest condolences to you and your family.


  14. Im glad to read you again. Thanks for this post.
    Best for you Buddy!

  15. So sorry to hear this. Getting caught back up on your blog after some time away and am just reading this now. Sending you a big hug from San Diego.


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